If you have kids you’ll want them to have the very best in life and that includes having a positive mental attitude and a sense of empowerment. Yet children are not always given the opportunity to actively learn how to acquire these skills. Knowing how to release negative thinking patterns and make use of mental skills such as visualisation techniques, affirmations, intuitive intelligence and positive self-talk are all skills that can be easily learnt but they do need to be taught.
In the chapters that follow, I’ll be describing some of my favourite self-help techniques for positive thinking. Techniques that you can use along with your children to make a real difference to their self-esteem and inner well-being.
Here is just a taste of what you can expect to learn.
Watch your language it’s so much more important than you might think! The words you speak to your children every day can have many more subtle effects on their inner thoughts and outer behaviours than you might realise. So we will begin our exploration of positive thinking by looking at how small changes in your choice of words can end up having a really big effect, both on your child’s behaviour and on their self-esteem.
In chapter two we’ll take a look at how you can nurture your child’s natural intuitive intelligence. This is one of my favourite subjects. Children are naturally intuitive and in this chapter, I’ll be sharing some tips on how you can help your child to develop their natural intuitive abilities.
In chapter three we’ll explore how you can make good use of visualisation and mental rehearsal techniques. Athletes and artists alike use these techniques every day to help ensure their success and you can use these same techniques to help bolster your child’s beliefs in their own abilities.
Both of these tools can be a real asset in helping the children in your care to feel good about themselves, and like everything else in this book, these are fabulous techniques for you to use too.
Theory on its own is of little use of course. So in this chapter, we’ll take a look at some practical ways of putting what you have learnt into practice.
Without action, nothing will change. So to help you get going I have gathered together some of my favourite practical exercises to help bolster a shaky self-image, boost confidence and empower your children to take control of their own experiences.
In this chapter, I’ll be describing how you can make affirmations a powerful tool for change.
Perhaps like me, you have been put off by many new age books suggesting that merely repeating affirmations out loud is all you need to do to bring about miraculous change, only to be disappointed when nothing changes. Affirmations can and do work, but they need to be carefully crafted, targeted to a specific outcome and fun for your children to use.
In this chapter, we’ll take a look at how you can do that and I’ll tell you about a common missing ingredient that can turn an otherwise ineffectual affirmation into a powerful tool for developing a positive mindset.
Finally, we’ll have a look at a further handful of practical tips and helpful hints to empower the children in your life. Each simple suggestion can be used to help give them the resources they need to approach the world with inner strength and confidence.
You’ll also find links to many resources at the end of this book that you can use to take your learning further.
When you teach your children these skills, you are helping them to develop and trust their own inner resources. You will be teaching them that they can be in control of which thoughts they pay attention to. And you will be teaching them that by choosing to pay attention to their more positive thoughts they can gradually overwrite any negative beliefs that might have been making them unhappy.
Growing up can be difficult. There is no doubt about it. Most children will go through phases of self-doubt as they grow up. Whether it is comparing themselves to others, slipping behind at school, or just taking negative feedback to heart. So helping them to cultivate a positive and resourceful mindset is one of the best gifts you could ever give them.
There is real value in discussing positive thinking and self-esteem with your children whatever their age but sadly these topics are not always included in the school curriculum.
This book is about taking this opportunity into your own hands. Don’t leave it to chance. Start today and look for even more creative ways in which you can guide your children’s thoughts in a positive direction, the chances are you will be amazed at the results.
Positive thinking will let you do everything better than negative thinking will.